I test drove a human being today.
Or, to be more accurate, he test drove us.
Our first day spent together, just our family, in our own home.
Altogether, we handled beautifully.
Of course, there were a few glitches. For instance, we made him leave the park to go home for lunch… NOT cool. Also, Daddy ate the last bite of (his own) garlic bread, despite the fact that his son was clearly eyeing it for himself. To be fair, Daddy had shared almost everything on his plate already… but STILL.
It should be noted that this is a huge upgrade over the past versions of the man. 2000-2011 Daddy models DID NOT share food, AT ALL . He also brings some high-tech gadgets to the table (iPad, smart phone…), but it’s the standard features that we love best: swinging through the air, tickle games, carrying heavy things, general doting and, of course, keeping Mommy happy.
But the real question is: how does it idle? It’s one thing to fly down the highway of fun family time, but what about nap time? This is where the rubber really hits the road.
We used bedding from his other home. We stuck to the same routine. We followed the manual.
Superior engineering on the part of foster mom has ensured a set of reliable sleep cues: warm bottle, sleep sack, soother, blankies and lullaby music (Bach, because he’s classy like that).
Mom of the Year! A snuggle on the rocking chair and then right off to sleep. This was definitely the highpoint of MY day – holding a sleepy bundle of sweet, sweet boy in my arms, in the room we had so carefully prepared for him.
Pause to soak in this incredible moment…
He slept over 2 hours in his new bed, without complaint. Through the tantrum his big sister threw. Through the fight that ensued when she hit one of the other big sisters on the head with a book. Through the wailing. Through the extra tv/cuddle time as she changed into her pj’s and demanded milk in a sippy cup, along with HER blanket. It bodes well for us that he sleeps deeply.
There were several moments today that felt utterly surreal. We have been frustrated with the long wait periods, the endless streams of paperwork and the strange bureaucratic rituals we must complete. But suddenly they seem like so little, considering what’s at stake here. They are giving us a human being. And we get to keep him forever. How weird is that?
I remember feeling this same way at the hospital as we walked out with our brand new infant. “Seriously, they’re just going to let us walk out of here with this tiny person? They aren’t even blinking. It’s like it’s not even a big deal.”
But it is a big deal. Every time. And adoption is no different. In fact, it is a bigger deal, since our little person already has a personality and a routine and the ability to leap off the very top of the staircase and a desire to climb onto the counter and a need to rummage through every drawer in the house.
As we packed up all his things to take him back to his other home for the night, it was bittersweet. We’re big believers in the gradual transition, especially at this age, and so blessed that we are able to do it at all. But more than ever, it feels like he belongs here with us.
So here’s me, completely sold on the new kid. He does come with a warranty, right?
June 11th, 2012 at 6:55 am
We are just starting out on our adoption journey. I like the way you write. It is encouraging and made me smile! Blessings!
June 11th, 2012 at 10:23 am
Congratulations! I was just reading about your journey on your blog. It’s very exciting! This is a long, sometimes exhausting journey… but SO worth the price of admission. We look at our little boy and it is just so clear that this is the one we have been praying for and dreaming of all along. Praying that everything comes together for you and your family!
June 11th, 2012 at 2:04 pm
Thank you!!!!! It is so good to have support and encouragement.
June 14th, 2012 at 7:39 pm
Someone giving you a baby never loses its amazement, at least it hasn’t for us. That a girl, a foster mom, put in some tough times and then gave you a person. A PERSON! It feels sort of unearned, a bit like grace I suppose. There is nothing I did to earn it, I followed a plan (paperwork!) and then waited (a very undetermined amount of time), and then I got a person. So unreal. And he is mine forever, to love, to hold.
June 15th, 2012 at 11:39 am
I’m so glad to hear that it isn’t going to fade. Every once in awhile I’m just overwhelmed with amazement over it! Such a gift “sort of unearned, a bit like grace” – YES! You said it so well. I’ve read this comment a half dozen times and keep coming back to it, definitely my favourite!
December 30th, 2012 at 6:02 am
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